How does this change our sexual intimacy?

Locking your husband’s penis in a chastity cage does change the sexual dynamic in your relationship.  He tells you that he wants you to lock him up and you do, so what’s next?  It varies from person to person.  As the wife and the keyholder, it is really now your decision as to what happens next.  If you like it when your husbands performs oral sex on you, then have him do it whenever you are in the mood.  If you want to have intercourse with your husband, do that.  Your husband may not want to orgasm or may ask you if he can orgasm and that is for you to decide.  If you want to get into the heat of the moment and enjoy each other physically then do that and let fate have its way.  If you orgasm before him, you can stop and keep him frustrated or keep going and give him the thrill of orgasm.  Wives may not be the dominant type and men have to understand this, but giving your wife the comfort of owning your package between your legs instead of pushing them to dominate you will go a long way.

What is probably going through your husbands head is the fact that he wants to cherish you and be physical with you in any way he can.  For some husbands, their spouses are dominating their thoughts and want to be physically intimate to show them how much they love their wife.  Many women are not that way and want to have an emotional connection before they want to be physical.  For chastity guys, they want to be locked up in order to direct their attentions from always wanting to be sexual to where their wives want them.  It gives these men in chastity to try and connect emotionally with their wife, which is what wives want before being intimate.  That may sound bad, but locking up their penis diverts their attention from being sexual to trying to be a better husband.  It may not make sense to you wives, but it can change their attitude towards you in so many ways.  A man thinks with two heads, if you lock one of them up, it can change things.

If husbands can understand that chastity may put a strain or a awkwardness on their relationship, don’t push it.  Keep it simple and allow their wives to get used to the fact that they now make the decisions of sex in your marriage.  Let them decide and don’t push them to the point of not only wanting to stop chastity but also it will not help in getting what men want, a physical relationship.

Wives, understand that your man wants to be with you emotionally and physically.  By being their keyholder, you can control them in any way you see fit.  Use it to help them understand how to connect with you emotionally to give you want you need.  They crave your touch and your intimacy.  Allow them into your emotional life because they are willing to give up their “manhood” for you and to be a better husband.

—MCI, keep’em locked and have fun!!

Chastity is More Than Just You

Chastity does not involve just one person.  Some wives become concerned when their husbands bring up the topic of chastity.  Understandably, when this is being put on someone’s lap that hasn’t heard of it or even thought it involved them can change the dynamic instantly.   Wives may question and wonder what happened to the person whom she married.  Thoughts that go through their minds include, do you love her as she is?  Why in the heck does he want me to lock his penis?  She may question your entire relationship as a whole because you may not be the “man” she married.  Is she dominant by nature or is this another role that she has to take up in your home life.  If she agrees to your chastity, is she doing it to make you happy?  Is she submissively agreeing to your domineering need for submissiveness?

Many women may be concerned because your fetish doesn’t line up to the man whom she married.  Maybe she enjoys your manliness.  You have always made the first move during your sexual encounters.  Being able to explain precisely and concisely that she will be controlling your sexual desires, without losing your manly qualities.  Men; choose your words wisely, Women; listen carefully to what he is saying.  Wives, just because you hold the key to his chastity devices does not meant that he won’t engage you sexually.  Now that you hold his key, means that you hold how the outcome of your sexual encounters.  You may want to make him massage you, give you a rub down, make him orally service you and cuddle you afterwards as you fall asleep in your post orgasmic bliss while  you have denied him orgasm.

Take is slow and progress at your own time and pace that is comfortable.  The spouse initiating male chastity needs to judge the pace and don’t try to push the idea too fast unless both parties are on the same train.  Husbands, you cannot teach your wife to be dominant.  Allow her time and space to explore her dominance and find her own style.  If she isn’t as strict, strong or domineering as you want, adjust your own needs, accept her efforts of how she is taking her role and open a line of communication.  Ultimately, husbands you are submitting to your wives and accept their keyholder’s techniques, methods and style.  Husbands you are now to please your wife in any way that she asks.

What is Chastity and Why He May Want It

Living in the chastity lifestyle is something that is experimental and ever changing.  Whatever you decide to do is how you and your spouse choose to dance and it involves what you thing is right for you and your relationship.  You need to choose what is right for you as long as both the husband and the wife are enjoying it and are having fun.

What goes along with male chastity?  Tease and denial, D/s scenes, sexual foreplay, household chores, honey-do list, anything that your imagination comes up with.  Have fun with it and enjoy each other as you were meant to enjoy each other.

It can be a once in a while chance to have a little fun and then put it away for a while.  It can become something that involves what goes on behind closed doors to other areas of life.  Again, make sure both parties are having fun and both parties are benefiting from it.  Open a line of communication so that as the course of the path changes it is easily discussed and changes made accordingly.

So why?  By wearing a chastity device, the male is looking for sexual attention and control and you are effectively in control of his sexual pleasure.  He has completely surrendered himself to you.  Again, why?

– He wants you to take the initiative.  You have his penis under lock and key and you decided what sex he will have.  You have the ability to build his sexual tension, because after all, he is locked and cannot release the tension other than through you.
– He may want  you to control more than just his penis.  Through discussion and through sexual play, finding his true motive can be “coaxed” out of him.
– He may want  you to know that he wants to give himself to you.  He may want you to understand that he wants to focus his attention, desire, imagination, needs and care for you.  Giving you control of his penis and you accepting it, gives him the freedom to give the rest of himself to you.
– He wants to lose himself a state of loss of control and the unknown outcome.  This can make his mind wonder and allow him to devote himself to you because ultimately you are in control of his manhood, his being and his release.

—MCI, keep’em locked and have fun!!

Submissive Husbands Desires

A submissive husband desires to give himself to his wife.  Some wives may not understand this desire because men aren’t “supposed” to act that way.

Understanding submission: Submission isn’t defined necessarily has obeying every command and doing it without regard.  Submission takes on the form of following someone who can guide.  Many people submit to others without knowing it because that person is guiding them along a path.  That persons path lines up with our own belief system.  However, we alter it when the path that person is taking us on changes or doesn’t line up to our own moral or ethical beliefs.

Any type of submission whether it is your spouse, your boss, your parents or anyone you can think of, those people whom you “submit” to you give them that control and as a result they expect some control.

Back on topic, a submissive husband desires to give himself to his wife, but the husband wants their wife to accept their submission and expect their submission starting in the bedroom and possibly in other avenues in their lives.  Submissive husbands like to perform household duties for their wives.  This is an act that shows their dedication to their wife and is a way to make a change in their wifes daily life.  Wifes tend to rule the roost and make sure that the household is running smoothly, which takes a lot of responsibility and strength.  Men who submit to their wives, give their wives an opportunity to breath and dedicate their time to dominate and control their husbands.  Husbands offer their time and labor in order for their wives to offer them fulfillment through domination.

Another aspect in which a man wants to submit to his wife is sexually.  If wives can understand the dynamic of the need for the husbands wanting them to dominate them it is because it gives the husbands an opportunity to share with them another aspect of their life, furthers their intimacy, everything is done safely and it builds a stronger bond.

A submissive man does not need to be beaten into submission, but go happily.  Wifes who demonstrate the ability to dominate them, they tend to follow closely behind.  Chastity is a surefire why for a man to show sexual submission.  Husbands who willingly agree to chastity gives complete control to their wife, not only in the bedroom, but 24/7 without anyone none the wiser.  Chastity, in a sense, ultimately tells the wife that the husband is submitting to them in the deepest of ways, through control of his manhood.  Chastity connects him constantly to his wife and her will.  It makes him constantly think of her and want to please her in order for him to be released.  She controls when he will be unlocked, if and when he will have sex and if and when he can ejaculate.  A man who submits to his wife, should allow her to control him in every way including his manhood because without that control, is it really submission?

-MCI, keep’em locked and have fun!!

Submissive Husbands

A submissive husband is something that can be hard for a wife to understand or comprehend.  Men are supposed to dominate in their professional arena and amongst friends and family.  When the bedroom door closes, the husband wants the wife to be in control.

Men love to give the appearance of being in control of their lives, their careers and their homes.  Some men dominate their respective professional arenas and when they come home they want to let go and be dominated in the bedroom.  It gives them a chance to lower their walls, lose control of decision-making and be told what to do by someone whom they love, trust and truly care about.  They want to lose that sense of responsibility and having their wives dominate them sexually which gives them that release of tension.

A man being sexually submissive to their wife is a sign of love, endearment, trust and understanding.  Men who can admittedly submit to their wives know that, that person is the only person who can carry out their submission.  Men try to dominate in every other arena in their life and at times have to give in with some concessions, but maintain that tough and rugged personality, fighting till their last breath on something that they feel strongly about.  Now, at home, the only person who can make them weak, fearful and soft is their wife.  Wives need to understand that they tend to hold more power and control then they truly know.  Men tend to want to make their wives happy.  The old adage is true, “Happy Wife, Happy Life.”  Submitting to their wives in the bedroom is another way for husbands to give their wife control in their lives.

Many men struggle with this innate inner conflict.  Some completely fight it off and refuse to give in to the notion of submitting to their wives.  Others don’t want to admit to themselves or their wife that they want to be dominated.  Another sector of men fight it and finally give in and admit to their wives their need to be dominated.  Finally the group of men puts it out their in front of their wife wanting them to take control, in fact daring them.  Many to most situations the husband tries to find ways in which to get his wife to seek out her dominate side and give him a chance to “live” his submissive side in the bedroom.  Once the husband and wife understand and accept their sexual roles in the bedroom, they can integrate it into the sex life inside the bedroom and many times the wife can benefit from it outside the bedroom in many non-sexual ways.

—MCI, keep’em locked and have fun!!